Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Singapore Yoni Massage
Singapore Yoni Massage refers to the massage of the female sexual organ. Female Singaporeans are usually not receptive to having others touching their private parts, but a Singapore Yoni Massage can be a totally mind blowing experience for any females who have not experience it.
The person receiving the massage will be encouraged to breathe deeply throughout the yoni massage so that the pleasure she gets is more intense.
Basically, the masseur will pour a small amount of oil on to the mound of the Yoni, just enough so it drips down the outer lips. Next, she will massage each outer lip slowly between thumb and forefinger, sliding up and down the entire length of the lip. She will do the same for the inner lips of the Yoni. Most women will be totally relaxed at this moment.
Next, the masseur will start massaging the clitoris. The clitoris is four times more sensitive as compared to the Yoni, thus many women will experience an intense pleasure. The masseur begins by gently stroking the clitoris in a clockwise and anti-clockwise direction. Sometimes, she will squeeze it gently between her thumb and index finger, this would normally yield a arousing feeling to the body.
Next, the masseur will insert her middle finger in the Yoni, she will bend her fingers back towards the palm and feel for the G-spot. She will gently massage it, in circles, back and forth, side to side. Whilst at the same time using her thumb to continue circling the clitoris.
Yoni massage is not very common in Singapore, but there are some Singapore massage palours that do offer such exotic massage. You can head over to our massage directory to look for massage palours offering such services.
http://www.singaporemassage.org/singapore-tantric-massage/singapore-yoni-massage/
How to Practice Tantra
Tantra is an ancient mystical system that originates from Hindu and Buddhist texts. Contrary to Western notions and applications of tantra, it is not a program that encourages licentious carnality. Tantra is a spiritual path, followed by adepts whose spiritual progress enables them to perform esoteric rituals. As with most spiritual paths, tantra requires a lifetime commitment to study and practice tantric principles. To practice tantra, a believer must study ancient sacred texts, practice specific meditation techniques and commit to the soul's journey toward union with the divine.
Instructions
1. Commit to tantra (Hindu or
Buddhist) as a spiritual way of life, rather than focus on the sexuality
with which tantra is associated in the West. Tantric practice brings
into harmony the mind and body by specific Kundalini yoga practice.
2. Submit the body and the mind to
the divine. By sacrifice and detachment, the whole being becomes a
vessel for the divine, which leads to liberation from rebirth (samsara)
and release from illusion (maya). Perform puja (worship) to God,
meditate in the lotus position, fast and bathe with humble respect of
the divine.
3. Locate a tantra guru. Tantra is a
complex spiritual system. Novices are advised to find a teacher who can
guide them through the intricacies and often puzzling teachings, texts
and tantric practices. In the quest for a guru, know that they are not
listed in the Yellow Pages. Find a Hindu temple and proceed from there.
Consider that your search is part of your commitment. Also, the adage,
"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" is wisdom that can
accompany you.
4. Investigate Kundalini tantra.
Kundalini is a path (yoga) that proceeds through the journey of tantra
in systematic ways. As you awakens the energy in the chakras, you begin
to experience harmony between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti)
principles in your whole being.
How to Perform a Tantra Massage
Tantra massage is considered a
couples' massage. Unlike other massages, the experience benefits both
individuals, calming the minds of the giver and receiver while
synchronizing their energies. A tantra massage's effects goes beyond the
physical to include emotional and spiritual benefits, bringing the
focus of the mind into the moment and awakening the body through sensory
stimulation.Instructions
1. Create an atmosphere for the
massage that will induce relaxation and awaken the senses in gentle
ways. Cover the massage surface with clean, fresh linens. Light the room
with candles or by lowering the wattage of lamps. Play soft music and
light incense.
2. Position the massage receiver
face down on the prepared surface. The couple should now synchronize
their breathing, focusing on the breaths in and out. Position the
receiver's arms away from the sides of the body and the legs into a
slight V shape. The giver may softly stroke each limb while positioning
it, from shoulder to fingertips and from thigh to toes.
3. Move your hands over the
receiver's body beginning with a light and gentle touch, using only
fingertip strokes and smooth whole-hand caresses. Touching in tantra
massage is not limited to any portion of the body. Apply caressing
strokes to the full body, back and front, as long as the giver and
receiver are comfortable. The energy between the giver and receiver
determines the type of touch suited as the massage progresses.
Tips & Warnings
- Those who practice tantra massage will benefit from the practices of yoga and meditation. All of these compliment each other and enhance mindfulness into the present moment while focusing energies through breathing and movement. Relaxation, peace of mind, enhanced spirituality and physical well being are the benefits of these practices. Tantra is not a sexual act, but a sensual one that creates stronger bonds between two individuals and awakens spiritual awareness and encourages emotional healing.
- If desired, hot lava stones can enhance the massage experience.
- Avoid
using essential oils during a tantra massage if skin sensitivity exists
for giver or receiver. Use of these oils will aggravate skin conditions.
http://www.ehow.com/how_8352973_perform-tantra-massage.html
How to Learn Yoni Massage
The Sanskrit word "yoni" refers
to the vagina, but the word actually means "sacred space" or "temple."
The meaning of the word conveys the sense of reverence toward female
sexuality inherent in yoni massage. Often when a woman experiences
traumatic and/or deeply stressful events, the energy of those
experiences will linger in her yoni. Yoni massage helps release those
painful experiences. Although a woman may experience orgasm during
yoni massage, the goal of the process is not merely sexual climax but
emotional healing.
Instructions
1. Set the stage by creating a
sense of safety, privacy and sacred space. Use clean sheets and pillow
and light some candles around the perimeter of the room. After the
woman has disrobed, have her recline on the bed or massage table with a
pillow to support her head and neck. Give her a full body massage using
scented oil and/or hot stones. In order to receive the full benefit
of the yoni massage, the woman has to feel relaxed and receptive. Allow
this initial phase to take about an hour.
2. Guide the woman to breathe
slowly and deeply. Help her use her breath to begin to relax from the
inside out. Try to have your breathing rhythms synchronize. If you
want, you can talk her through a guided meditation on the chakras to
help her become more aware of her energy body. Let the massage start to
center around the yoni area, focusing on the abdomen, thighs and pubic
bone area. Slide a pillow beneath the woman's hips to elevate them so
she can view the process of yoni massage.
3. Pour some warm oil or lubricant
over the pubic mound area. Massage the outer lips of the vulva,
observing the woman's response to determine the degree of pressure to
use with your fingers. Gently squeeze the lips, sliding your fingers up
and down their length. Then repeat this process with the inner lips,
remaining aware of the woman's response to different degrees of touch.
Eye contact between the person giving the massage and the woman
receiving it deepens the intensity of the experience but try to keep the
process primarily non-verbal.
4. Stroke the clitoris in a
circular motion, both clockwise and counter-clockwise. Press it lightly
between your thumb and index finger, again noticing the woman's
response. Keep the rhythm slow and steady as you touch her. Slide the
middle finger of the other hand into the yoni. Move the middle finger in
a slightly crooked position as for a "come here" gesture, seeking what
Tantra refers to as the woman's "sacred spot." Experiment with different
levels of pressure, speeds and patterns of movement as you touch this
spot. If the woman feels comfortable, you may insert more than one
finger in the vagina. Another option, depending on the woman's comfort,
is to use the thumb of the hand inside the vagina to stroke the
clitoris and slide one or more well-lubricated fingers of the other hand
into the anus. Or you can use one hand for the yoni and clitoris and
the other hand to massage her breasts.
5. Continue to massage the yoni
area. Maintain a steady, compassionate calmness so the woman feels free
to let her body determine whether or not she climaxes or how many
orgasms she experiences. She may also experience other forms of
emotional release, including crying. Continue the massage until the
woman indicates she wishes it to conclude the session. You may want to
cover her with a sheet or blanket after the massage to give her a
sensation of feeling safe and cocooned.
Tips & Warnings
- Remember that the tissues of the genital region are highly sensitive. Avoid using strongly scented products when massaging this area. Select products safe for internal use when massaging the yoni.
http://www.ehow.com/how_7505921_learn-yoni-massage.html
How to Give a Tantra Yoni Massage
Tantra is a form of sexual activity that focuses on stimulation and intense pleasure. The yoni massage is given to a woman by her partner. "Yoni" is an alternative word in Tantra for the vagina. The purpose of the yoni massage is for the woman to relax and experience pleasure.
Instructions
1. Ask the subject of the massage to empty her bladder.
Shower or bathe together.
2. Ask the woman to lie on her back
with a pillow under her head and place a pillow under her hips. Ask her
to put her feet halfway toward her buttocks, with her knees bent, and
expose her yoni. Sit between her legs with your legs crossed.
3. Begin the breathing exercises that will continue throughout the massage.
Apply the lubricant or warm, scented oil to the outside of the yoni. Slowly and sensually massage her vaginal lips.
4. Rub her clitoris in a clockwise
motion and then in a counterclockwise motion, adjusting the speed and
pressure based on the woman's preferences.
5. Use your thumb and index finger to gently squeeze the clitoris.
6. Place your middle finger into the woman's yoni and explore various speeds and depths.
7. Focus your finger up toward the woman's G-spot, which is called the "sacred spot" in Tantra.
8. End the massage at the woman's request.
Sacred Sexuality
Sacred Sexuality
“By the same acts that cause some men to burn in hell for thousands of years,
the Tantric practitioner gains eternal salvation.”
Freud said that empires were
built on the resulting sublimated energy, but the game is over. It
turns out there's nothing unspiritual about pleasure, and it's good for
your health too. So how did we ever come to feel so bad about even
thinking about feeling good? The passions are so overwhelmingly
powerful that religions have been warning us away from them since the
dark ages. Yet, ironically, through no other human activity, except
death, is the opportunity for ego-loss, transformation and self-
realization so prevalent and powerful as in Tantra.
Tantra means more than embracing
your physicality: all action, thought, and realization becomes
spiritual liberation itself. The high art of making True Love is
mystical and miraculous beyond comprehension. It inundates your
entire being. It delivers you - body and soul - to unimagined heights
of ecstasy. The discovery of the key to the union of spirituality and
sexuality is at once a path to, and a gift of Enlightenment.
The ultimate consummation of
physical love-making is complete Union. It bestows the experience of a
spectacular breakthrough to the Infinite - beyond, but concurrent with
our everyday existence. What begins as duality within time, climaxes
as a shared soul-merging experience of Eternity. A transformation
occurs which evolves from desire and passion to a level of total and
perfect bliss, otherwise rarely known in human existence.
Spiritual merging in love is the
elusive prize that everyone seeks when they lay down with another,
whether they know it or not. Lust is only a call to love, and many
have yet to answer it. We may think we are content giving and taking
personal gratification, yet all the while the heart seeks nothing less
than to lose itself absolutely in love, and be consumed in ecstatic
union with your beloved or guide, and the Universe. We can experience
this love is a Tantric session.
How to achieve such divine
deliverance through one of the most common "animalistic" functions we
perform is the secret known to enlightened lovers as the direct path of
Love. It transcends the trap of the ego-self: In effect, the world's
greatest aphrodisiac is selflessness.
Nobody is better than the Buddha in bed.
Nobody is better than the Buddha in bed.
SURRENDER
The paradox of sex is that the same act can both liberate and imprison, depending upon one's intent, state of mind, and conditioning. Sex can drive you either towards or away from Enlightenment. The great enigma is, how can we transform the trap of addictive physical appetite to the ecstatic realization of Divine Union?
It all depends on your true and
underlying purpose. It calls for constancy and commitment to the
ultimate goal of Enlightenment. Why is the divine gift of lovemaking
so often little more than a desperate groping for glandular stimulation
in dark rooms, accompanied by feelings of hunger and shame?
Ironically, and all too often - when people use each other uncaringly -
this most universally accessible mystical experience of orgasm is
debased into something dishonorable and dirty. But anti-sex
admonitions in turn only give rise to guilt, when - despite heroic
efforts to curb our "lower appetites" - we find ourselves indulging in
what is, after all, the single most compelling human urge after
breathing and eating. We might even say that repression of this primal
biological imperative creates rapists and pedophiles.
Shame is taught by "authorities"
who can embrace neither their animal nor their spiritual nature. They
fear one and fake the other, and call this "correct." Certain
religions contend that sex must be solely for insemination and
procreation, or it is devil-worship. By that logic, one should
certainly refrain from using one's hands (not to mention lips and
tongue), and get it over with as quickly as possible. Obviously the
Good Lord made this procreational pleasure-drive far more powerful than
most individual's (and any church's) power to control.
A truly relevant and realistic
religion would teach us how to consecrate our sexuality, not deny it.
We need to unlearn our guilt about wanting sex, even as we realize
what a guilded cage it could very well become. Of course men and women
compromise their morality and good judgment all the time for sex
(although probably no more than for love, money, power, or fame). But
the inherent dangers are hardly reason to avoid the experience. Respect
for that very danger should make us take care as we take pleasure. Let
us celebrate and make sacred our natural, innate sexuality. Copulation
as high communion? Is there any better way?
SEXUAL SPIRITUALITY
It is time for today’s generation
to begin to re-learn the sacred approach to lovemaking, as in
indigenous tribal customs, rituals, and Tantric couples practices.
Meditation, invocations, breathing exercises, incense, candlelight,
ceremonial objects, rituals, music, and essential oils have been used
to create a special environment and mind-state in which to sanctify
sexual union. Such careful preparations tend to quiet the busy,
over-worked mind and increase sensitivity and sensuality, while at the
same time creating reverence.
The essence of this conscious sex
approach is to transform the very energy of your appetite for personal
pleasure into one of cosmic realization, by harnessing your own desire
to the happiness, the thrill, and the total fulfillment of your
partner. Thus you achieve Unity through duality, by making her (or
his) ecstasy your own. Giving and taking merge, and you two become
One. The transformation from ordinary mechanical, confused,
guilt-ridden sex to the profound gift of natural/spiritual lovemaking
depends upon a broadening of one's focus from the genitals to the
heart, from passion to compassion.
Spiritual sex opens you at all
centers at once, animal to divine. Transcendent love is a religious
experience. Every touch is The First, and time stands still. The
senses are magnified a thousand times. Your partner becomes a Goddess
or God, whom you worship in awe. You notice everything, and it all
conveys tremendous meaning and potency. Foreplay is truly playful,
breathtakingly tender. The pleasure is immediately and continuously
perfect, the passion intense and profound. Time itself disappears and
the Holy Universe becomes self-evident. Opening all your centers,
engaging all your faculties, the animal/emotional/spiritual crescendo
of love lasts forever, and the climax is an exquisite release of the
body, the heart and the soul in a spectacular shared revelation of the
Universal Self. The after-glow of such a cosmic physical union endures
for days.. weeks. The experience is healing and unifying in every
way.
HOW TO MAKE ENLIGHTENED LOVE
- Consecrate the setting. Make it Holy.
- Wait for the perfect moment.
- Purify yourself in body and mind.
- Meditate.
- Dedicate the experience to your highest purpose.
- Invoke the Goddesses of Love.
- Begin motionless and in silence.
- Gaze into each other's eyes, long and deep.
- Breathe together.
- Fall in love. stay in love. die into love.
- Listen for Inner Guidance.
- Reside always at the beginning.
- Move in slow motion, with reverence.
- Worship your lover. Touch only in awe.
- Trust your body's deepest impulses.
- Give voice to your feelings.
- Make love with your whole being.
- Transpose taking and giving.
- Decelerate until time stands still.
- Abandon all gain and control.
- Die as a personality. Be born as pure Love in the Universe.
EXQUISITE LOVE
To lose the self in love, look always to the beginning and keep to the beginning. Worship each other's pure essence as Goddess and God.
Everything matters.
Use all senses Read your beloved's mind/body.
In slow motion abandonment of time itself, Give only pleasure and love, letting hers become yours, ours.
Surrender continuously, unconditionally, to the sacred fire within, all consuming, all purifying, all fulfilling.
Some Sacred Sexuality excerpts have been gratefully provided by Lonny J. Brown, author of “Enlightenment in Our Time” www.BookLocker.com/LonnyBrown
“The point
of giving her sexual pleasure is to awaken the bliss that she will then
combine with meditation on emptiness in order to attain enlightenment.”
- Miranda Shaw, Ph.D. Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism -
(Princeton University Press)
(Princeton University Press)
Multiple Orgasms
What is a Multiple Orgasm?
Multiple orgasms are a series of sequential orgasmic experiences that occur in quick succession. And when it comes to multiples, women have the biological upper hand over men. This is because unlike men, women do not experience a refractory period (the period of time after men ejaculate when they can't be aroused). So women can and do respond to stimulation immediately after orgasm.
Men are also capable of multiple orgasms, however for men, exercises using the PC muscles along with breathing to separate orgasm from ejaculation are needed. The refractory period only applies to ejaculation. If a man can use the PC muscles to prevent ejaculation, then he can continue stimulation to reach the point over and over without the refractory period.
Here are some general guidelines for Women who seek Multiple Orgasms:
1. Create a welcoming atmosphere,
both on the inside and in your surroundings. Being comfortable within
your body, accepting yourself the way you are, and knowing that you are
loved is paramount. This is followed by creating an outer environment
where you can feel relaxed. In order to surrender in the moment, one
must feel comfortable and safe.2. Learn about your body. You have to crawl before you walk; you have to have one orgasm before you can have multiple orgasms. Spend some time with yourself, getting to know what feels good. This is the essential foundation to sexual response.
3. Practice. It takes practice to
achieve multiple orgasms. In many ways it is like learning to have your
first orgasm all over again. Immerse yourself in fantasy, or do
whatever it takes to get aroused.
4. Slow down, and use lots of foreplay, especially foreplay that focuses on clitoral stimulation along with breathing.
5. Get some rest beforehand.
Often, experiencing multiples is limited by your lack of sleep. After
one orgasm, many women feel relaxed. So relaxed, that they may want to
drift off to sleep. But if you are well rested, you can resist that
sleep temptation, and work for another orgasm, and another, and another.
6. After the first orgasm, the
orgasms come easier. It might take 10 to 15 minutes to reach your first
orgasm, but your second can occur in a couple minutes or even a few
seconds, and your third shortly thereafter. Keep going as long as you
are enjoying yourself.
7. Have fun. There is no
right or wrong. Only you can set the limit as to how far and long you’d
like to go. The “take home” lesson is that multiple orgasms do sound
appealing, however even a single mindful orgasm has the power to free
the body. Full Body Orgasm
Full Body Orgasm
When a man or woman makes love,
the reason that they only experience an orgasm in the pelvis area is
because this is the area that they intensely focus on. The mind is a
very powerful tool. Where you focus and put your intention is where the
energy goes. By using a combination of your intention along with the
breath, anyone can circulate sexual energy throughout the entire body.
The breath is the vehicle that moves energy throughout the body.
The following suggestions are a very good guide to experiencing full body orgasms:
Take it slowly. Build the sexual
energy a little at a time. There is no hurry. Every touch is a
complete sexual act. Keep touching and teasing, making that store of
sexual energy stronger and stronger. It is like filling water behind a
dam where orgasm is the explosion breaking the dam. The amount of
sexual energy within you determines both the strength of the orgasm, as
well as how far up your body the orgasm will go.
Practice doing Kegel exercises
daily. At least forty times a day, or four sets of ten. There are also
devices available that help to strengthen the PC muscles. It is
recommended to use one of these because muscle can only get so strong
contracting without resistance. Using such a device can make the PC
muscles even stronger. This not only strengthens our pelvic muscles
for a better climax, but it also increases the amount of sexual energy
you have within you. In Eastern medicine, this point is called the
“Gate of Life and Death” because it is believed that the energy that
keeps the organs and body strong is retained by having strong PC
muscles. Likewise, this energy drains away through this point if there
are weak PC muscles. So make sure to do them daily for health as well
as to build a nice healthy libido. If you never reach full body orgasm,
this alone sets the stage for great sex!
Become familiar with chakras and
the energy system. Chakras, literally meaning “spinning wheels” and
centers or vortexes of energy within the body.
There are seven chakras: the root,
navel, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, and crown. Our energy
travels up our bodies thru these chakras. Those very attuned to the
body’s energy can actually see the spinning on energy in each chakra as
it expands outwards. So take a few minutes each day to focus on each
chakra. All seven chakras have a specific color, as well as negative and
positive emotion associated with them. Learn these and practice
breathing through the chakras, placing your hands on each one as you
take deep breaths focusing your intention on each. Allow them to
expand, becoming stronger and stronger.
Focus on the places that your
partner, or you yourself, stimulate at the moment (It is good to
practice on yourself as well). Remember that each touch is a complete
sexual act. For example, if you feel a touch on your neck, tune in to
the sensations that you feel at that exact spot. Do not allow yourself
to think of anything but. Be the actual touch. Tantra is to make every
moment count. Allowing your thoughts to stray on the way you look, the
work you have to do, or what someone else is doing in the moment, is
wasting a good time, your time! Let go of the thoughts, and live in
each touch!
Finally, during orgasm, allow your
mind to bring the energy up your body by simply directing it. While you
feel your orgasm, feel yourself pull it up thru your stomach, chest,
neck, landing finally in the crown of your head. Simply place your
attention to where you want the energy to be, and with time, you will
find the energy traveling. It may take a little practice, but after a
while the orgasm will travel all the way to the top! Once this happens,
the energy can continue to recycle throughout the body, having one
orgasm after another, not knowing exactly where one ends and one begins.
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Sessions for Women
Tantric Sessions for Women
After I arrive at your home, hotel or apartment, I will greet you, introduce myself, and we can talk about the session, about whatever you’d like as I begin to set up and create a sacred space within the room and surrounding the massage table. A Tantric session is often the first step in learning to be a sexual being without going into fantasy or “spacing out”. You experience how to truly feel your body as it is being touched and aroused sexually, to be in the present moment, aware and alive. The Tantric session is a ritual of receiving the sensual kundalini (sexual) energy flowing through the entire body. Throughout the session, you are given time to feel your body being explored without goals. Energetic healing and tantric coaching are added to the ecstasy of receiving the nurturing and awakening sensual massage. The environment is created in which you can release stress and feel more alive in your body while staying fully present to your sexual energy. The massage begins face down on the massage table with guided relaxation and breathing. Your comfort and sense of safety is of utmost importance. Starting face down is a very safe, nurturing position enveloping the heart and intimate areas in the table. I will place my hands on your back, staying still as caring and calming energy flows throughout your body. The session will go at the speed which you are most comfortable. As your breathing becomes deeper and your body becomes more and more relaxed, I will begin to explore your body. My intuition guides my hands as I work with the energy, gliding from your toes slowly upwards toward the crown of your head, then back down, breathing deeply, and connecting you with the circular breath, (in through nose, out through mouth) and flow of energy within your body. My touch is gentle and relaxing, responding to your subtle body's imbalances and emotional needs, as well as deeper with emphasis on the physical body for muscular relief. When the back massage naturally comes to a conclusion, I will ask you to slowly flip over. I will then gently place my hands on your heart. As you breathe you will start to feel good, sad, mad, joyous, your mind may wander or think this is silly… Just let yourself have these feelings. Take a breath and come back to the present moment. When it feels appropriate, I will begin to caress your upper body with a slow and gentle touch. The breasts are the seat to the Goddess’ sexuality so this is an appropriate place to start. The key here is to stay present to the feeling and not go into fantasy. Imagine that you have never been touched before and simply feel what it feels like receive this slow, gentle touch. Your entire body, neck, arms, chest, belly, hips, inner thighs, legs, and feet will be awakened, massaged and explored as you continue to breathe. After making sure you are comfortable on your back and feeling safe and connected, the session will gradually flow into the yoni massage. The session will go one second at a time, one touch at a time. Each part will be explored as if never touched before. The sensations will vary from very light touch to deep exploration. You will be encouraged to let me know how you are feeling. Often when an intense pleasure or emotion surfaces, we hold our breath. This shuts off our resources and makes it more difficult to move the energy, so if this happens I will gently remind you to continue taking deep breaths. Relax, surrender in the moment, and enjoy receiving the massage. Slowly as the session comes to a close, you will be given time to come back and bask in the wonderful energy that has been created. You will be comforted with light gentle touch all over your body, wrapped in the warm blanket, and allowed to relax and regroup. After the session, it’s always a good idea to drink and eat something. And we can chat about your experience and how you are feeling. |
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Prenatal Massage
Prenatal Massage
Expectant moms experience unique physical and emotional changes that occur as a result of increased weight, fatigue, shifting posture, and adjusting hormone levels. While this is a beautiful period of heightened expectation and joy, mothers-to-be can also feel discomfort ranging from muscular tension and headaches, to pressure on the knees as well as other physical concerns. Prenatal sessions address the bodily changes of expecting mothers, both physically and emotionally with respect and care.
Prenatal sessions
will also address the perineal tissue. The better you prepare your
perineal tissues for the stretching of birth, the less chance they will
tear. Not only does perineal massage help prepare the tissue, but it
also allows you to learn the sensations of childbirth and how to
control these muscles. Midwives report that women who receive perineal
massage regularly during pregnancy experience less stinging sensation
during crowning as well as are much less likely to tear or get an
episiotomy. This is because during childbirth when the perineum
stretches, it is very common for the body to tense and for you to take
more shallow breaths.
Prenatal sessions
help to prepare expectant mothers to be in the most relaxed,
comfortable, and open state possible for childbirth. Massage combined
with breathwork and energywork helps to release physical and emotional
tension and prepare expectant mothers to experience orgasmic child
birth.
That’s right,
orgasmic childbirth. Although we rarely ever see the word orgasm and
childbirth in the same sentence, orgasmic birth is part of Mother
Nature's master plan. Birth is a sexual experience and biologically
it makes sense. The pleasures of birth allow for better mother-infant
bonding. Far from perverse, orgasmic pleasures are a continuation of
the act of conception itself.They're in the best interest of the baby, and an ideal starting point for healthy family relationships. Research conducted by Dr. Beverly Whipple in 1989, as well as others, indicates that orgasms can be induced in some women during childbirth. It is believed that this happens because of pressure from the baby's head on its mother's all-important hypogastric and pelvic nerve systems. These nerves play a part in a woman's ability to experience vaginal, cervical and G-spot orgasms. Also, the release of the hormone oxytocin during childbirth which is responsible for the nipple erection and uterine contractions, dulls pain as well. This can actually produce stronger, more effective, even pleasurable contractions. Best yet, it can make for orgasmic sensations, especially with the increase in ecstasy-producing beta-endorphins.
So why don’t all
women orgasm during childbirth and how do women experience such an
orgasm? In order for orgasms to happen, women have to overcome their
birthing fears, know that they are sexual beings even during pregnancy,
embrace the idea of intense pleasure during childbirth, allow their
body to be open, and most importantly, take control of their pregnancy
and childbirth. Instead of handing their bodies over to medicine to
speed labor, they need to work with non-interventional practitioners
like myself, as well as midwives. Synthetic hormones can actually make
for contractions that are more painful, causing problems like rupture
of the uterus.
Prenatal sessions greatly help women feel
physically, emotionally, and energetically ready for childbirth. We
can work with normal birthing fears, watching them come and go, not
allowing them to affect our state of mind. Using a combination of
energywork, breathwork, and massage, the body opens and is allowed to
feel relaxed, comforted, pleasured.
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Female Ejaculation
Female Ejaculation
“Amrita” is an ancient Sanskrit word meaning nectar of the goddess.
We now know that there's more than
one way to make a wet spot - in fact, there's a whole camp of doctors
who believe that all women ejaculate when they have an orgasm. In one
study from Florida State University in Tallahassee, 82 percent of women
said they experienced a release of liquid at the moment of orgasm.
Haven't noticed this yourself? "Since most women are lying on their
backs during sex and the amount of fluid is so small [about a teaspoon],
it sometimes doesn't come out," explains Beverly Whipple, professor at
Rutgers University and president of the American Association of Sex
Educators, Counselors and Therapists. "But research has demonstrated
that all women do release a substance through the urethra that is not
urine.""
So where does it come from?There is a female counterpart to the male prostate; technically known as “Skene’s” glands. Just as in the male prostate, the ducts from these glands empty into the urethral canal. The liquid produced by the Skene’s glands is definitely not urine, but a thin clear fluid containing glucose and prostatic acid which is very similar to the makeup of semen, obviously without the sperm.
During sexual arousal the Skene’s
glands may be stimulated in a way as to release secretions into the
urethral canal. These secretions are ultimately expelled through the
urethral opening (just as in male ejaculation). This fluid "release" is
entirely unrelated to “vaginal” secretions, who’s primary, but not
exclusive purpose is the lubrication of the vagina.
The Skene’s glands are smaller in
size than the male prostate, and it would only seem logical to assume
that the amount of “ejaculate” would also be less. The women seen
ejaculating in mainstream adult movies are likely releasing liquid from
their bladder rather than ejaculating. They fake their ejaculations just
as they fake their orgasms. They are intentionally squirting liquid
from their bladder to simulate orgasm and true female ejaculation, or
rapidly expelling liquid that was previously injected inside their
vagina. The proof of this is the shear volume and/or the white color of
the liquid they expel. Anyway, regardless of the true quantity, it is a
fact, that it is possible for women to ejaculate (squirt) prostatic
fluid.
Where is this mysterious female prostate gland?The Skene’s glands are embedded within the wall of the urethra, and can be indirectly felt through the upper vaginal wall, 2- 3 inches from the entrance to the vagina.
Using the pads of one or more fingers, it can best be identified as area of ridges behind the pubic bone. The center of this ridged surface, about the size of a dime to half dollar, is known as the Graffenberg spot or G-spot. During arousal the G-spot (which is made of erectile tissue) fills with blood and swells to 2-3 times its normal size. After arousal it is usually more easily identified and stimulated. Not all women are sensitive to stimulation or find it pleasurable. Since indirect pressure is applied to the bladder, some woman will feel the sensation to urinate. Breaking this psychological barrier makes it possible for some women to expel prostatic fluid, as a direct result of simultaneous stimulation of the G-spot and muscle contractions surrounding the urethra.
For a woman seeking to stimulate
this area on her own, you can do so in a squatting position or lying on
your back with your knees raised and inserting your middle finger into
your vagina in an inverted "come hither" motion. A curved toy can also
be used, however because the G-spot responds to pressure, not vibration,
it would be recommended to use battery-less toy. During sex, rear
entry is recommended. Unlike the currently widely accepted missionary
position (face to face), rear entry has the advantage of exerting more
direct pressure and stimulation onto the G-spot, by the penis. Secondly
there is a greater chance of outward ejaculation (by the female), since
the urethral canal is not compressed in a way as to inhibit the flow of
fluid out of the urethral opening.
For those who desire to pursue the experience, the following points should be considered as essential for success.Locating the G-spot. (1.5 – 2 inches along the upper wall of the vagina) Many men go right past it when working with their partners. Remember it is not very deep.
Work on developing strong PC
(pubococcygeus) muscles. Well-toned PC muscles are crucial for those
wanting to ejaculate as well as be multi-orgasmic.
Enjoying the sensations of G-spot
stimulation and take your time. The G-spot is one of the most powerful
emotional centers of the female body. Blocked feelings and thoughts can
surface when working with the G-spot. So have patience as you open the
flow of liquid as well as energy within the body.
Overcoming the fear of urinating, during arousal and G-spot stimulation. Emptying the bladder immediately prior to experience, since most women fear that they will urinate as soon as they relax their PC muscles. Remember it is only a fear, you will not urinate.
Overcoming the fear of urinating, during arousal and G-spot stimulation. Emptying the bladder immediately prior to experience, since most women fear that they will urinate as soon as they relax their PC muscles. Remember it is only a fear, you will not urinate.
Don’t stress over it! By letting
it go, you allow ejaculation to happen. Enjoy the pleasurable feelings
and worship your body and the divine Goddess within.
Yoni Massage
Yoni (YO-NEE) is the Sanskrit word for the vagina
Although the Yoni massage can be
extremely stimulating, the purpose is not to bring the woman to orgasm.
Rather, it is to relax the receiver and to bring emotions to the
surface so that she is free to express her natural, powerful, orgasmic
nature. The experiences and feelings that a woman may have during the
Yoni massage can be very different, ranging from anger, lust, sadness,
or even indifference. Everything is possible and everything is allowed.
The Yoni massage is not about focusing on a special kind of feeling or
fulfilling a particular expectation. The idea is simply to witness the
receiver and to honor and respect her feminine nature as a divine
Goddess.
Before beginning the massage, you
should gaze into each other's eyes while embracing and engaging in deep,
relaxed, synchronized breathing. By doing this, the giver and receiver
connect on a deep level, creating openness and the ground on which the
yoni massage will grow. Both the giver and receiver should remember to
keep breathing deeply, slowly, and with relaxation during the entire
process.
When you are both ready to begin
the massage, the woman lies on her back with one pillow under her head
and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees
and opens her legs to expose her Yoni. Sit comfortably between her legs
with your legs crossed. You may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion.
Begin by massaging other parts of
her body to encourage her to relax, start taking deeper breaths, and
relax the muscles. Gently, but firmly, massage her legs, thighs,
stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the Yoni. Next,
massage the pubic bone area and then move down to the inner thigh area.
With the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of
Tantra), apply a high-quality oil or lubricant to the mound of the Yoni,
pouring just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the
outside of the Yoni.
Gently rub the oil on the outer
lips of the Yoni. With the thumb and index finger, gently squeeze each
lip, sliding the fingers up and down the entire length of each lip.
Then, carefully repeat this process with each inner lip of the vagina
varying the pressure and speed of touch based on what feels right.
Next, gently stroke the clitoris
in a circular motion, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Then, squeeze
the clitoris between the thumb and index finger. Next, slowly and with
great care, insert your middle finger into her Yoni. Very gently explore
and massage the inside of the Yoni with your finger. Varying the speed
and depth of your finger, feel inside the Yoni up, down and around. With
your palm pointing upward and your finger inside your partner's Yoni,
bend your finger to make contact with her G-spot, known as the "sacred
spot" in Tantra.
Continue the massage, trying
different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and gazing into
each other's eyes. You may have powerful emotions come up and feel
like crying, or burst out laughing. This is simply blocked energy being
freed and is very healing. Just keep breathing as the massage
continues. If orgasm occurs, continue breathing. Don’t hold back,
yell, scream, release the energy and emotions. This is your safe
healing time. And remember that breathing is very important to
continually move the energy throughout the body. This also enhances the
healing aspect of the yoni massage. More orgasms may occur, each
gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many
women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni massage and a
patient, caring partner.
Keep massaging until she tells you
to stop. Very slowly, gently, and mindfully, remove your hands. The
Yoni massage creates a space for a woman to relax, and enter a state of
high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Allow her to
just lie there, perhaps covering her with a blanket making a warm cocoon
around her body, and letting her to enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni
massage. This is a profound time of great peace as you experience the
joy of being a witness to this special moment.
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